Month: June 2016

Supportive Bystanders

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We all know that we have the basic right to feel safe. As responsible members of a community, we also know that we should respect and protect the rights of others.

If someone is being bullied, a supportive bystander will take a stand against that bullying by using words or actions to help the victim.

If more bystanders have the confidence to speak up for the person being bullied and take safe action to help them, the power that the bully is seeking can be lessened.

Bullies thrive on the approval of those around them. Supportive bystanders do not just watch. They voice their voice their disapproval – ‘Stop that!’, ‘That’s not okay!’, ‘You don’t need to do that; leave him be.’

Make it clear to your friends that you won’t be involved in bullying behaviour.
Never stand by and watch or encourage bullying.
Do not harass, tease or spread gossip about others, this includes on social networks like Facebook.
Never forward on or respond to messages or photos that may be offensive or upsetting.
Support the person who is being bullied to ask for help e.g. go with them to a place they can get help or provide them with information about where to go for help.
Report it to someone in authority or someone you trust e.g. at school to a teacher, or a school counsellor; at work to a manager; if the bullying is serious, report it to the police; if the bullying occurs on Facebook, report it to Facebook.

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More on Bullying

A bystander is someone who sees or knows something that is happening to someone else. When it comes to bullying, bystanders can be either part of the problem or part of the solution to stop what’s happening.

The way bystanders react when they see a bullying incident is critical.

Some bystanders take the side of the bully by laughing at the victim, encouraging the bully or forwarding on text messages or messages on social media like Facebook and YouTube.

Some bystanders say or do nothing. By doing so they give silent approval to the bully and encourage him/her to continue the behaviour.

Some bystanders may watch or know about the bullying but don’t do anything. They may not know what to do. or are scared. This group of bystanders knows that bullying is not ok.

Some bystanders will be supportive and take safe action to stop the bully, find help or support the victim.
What sort of bystander are you?

In my new book “Gummshoes – Mission#1: The Nobbled Numbskull”, I offer a plan to help kids cope with bullies.
Check out the P.E.R.F.E.C.T. Plan to cope with bullying.

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